5 Kids’ free activities, Parents should also have some fun #MyFriendAlexa

5 Kids’ free activities, Parents should also have some fun #MyFriendAlexa

 Kids’ free activities, however impudent it might sound to you but believe me that is very much required for a couple to have a healthy life together. Once we are parents, priorities change. And it must change. But once we become parents, we must not forget that we are life partner of one person too. A person who we share our dreams as well. Unless you both are connected at psychological, spiritual and physical levels, the dream sharing takes a back seat. Then you are not life partners rather just roommates. Who share a room, expenses and chores.

This happens more in women; motherhood takes away the real woman in them. Don’t take me wrong but on many Facebook moms’ groups I have read discussions where ladies proudly say that they sleep with kids only and they didn’t get physically close to husband in the last 2-3 years. There can be reasons, some genuine reasons but then all actions have repercussions too. There must be a balance in life in everything you do. You be a mother but never forget you are a wife too. That’s why here I am suggesting some kids’ free activities, for just two of you.

With modern-age relationships one more problem is every one is busy in their own world. May be both partners are working or not, but no one is free. So here are few activities come chores, where you can spend quality time as well as finish your work.

5 Kids free activities, just for parents

1. Cooking

We have heard it since ages that ‘the way to a man’s heart goes through his stomach’, but let me tell you that a way to a woman’s heart goes through a day free from kitchen. If dear husbands, you can not manage the entire day, at least manage one meal. Together. See I am not asking husbands to cook alone. I understand in this age too we still have men who can hardly make tea by them selves or may be Maggi. Even if you have a cook, there must be something that you guys can cook together. May be breakfast, evening snacks or anything light. The agenda isn’t to prepare a full course meal, but to create something together.

cooking together is fun

Plan ahead, to avoid chaos, mood swings and stuffs that hamper the agenda. Decide the dish, check availability of ingredients. Cooking is stress buster, plus you guys can gossip, chat and do lot of sweet nothings. More than ingredients two things are important. Please take a note, keep your mobile phones away except for checking recipe that is in making and lot of love. The dish will automatically come out superb.

2. Working out

The silver lining of the dark cloud called Covid19 is that we have got a lot of time together. How much of it is quality time, is up to us. We are having a real twisty journey with lots of ups and downs.

Working out together, can be as simple as walking, jogging, yoga or even gym workout. At home or outside, as per once comfort level. I am telling you with my personal experience that being your spouses gym buddy is amazing. We have one-hour workout session, either in morning or evening as per the work schedule. It is a mix of HIIT, weight training and stretches. But the way we support each other in heavy weight squats and motivate when really really tired, gives me a reason to look forward to do the routine every day.

Working out together, is an amazing among the other kids’ free activities. It’s like ‘aam ke aam guthliyon ke daam’. Weight loss as well as some quality time.

3. Gardening

Garden doesn’t mean a big place; it can be a few vase or pots in your balcony or lobby. I am not much into flower gardening; I prefer herbs and vegetables where as my husband loves flower gardening. On this anniversary I gifted him a gardening tool kit. He loved it more than I expected and uses it almost every weekend. I have also started helping him out. We get new plants, pots and spend sometime nurturing them as well as our relationship. The joy of creating together is amazing. Plus, it’s a stress buster too.

Kids free activities

Once you start doing it together, you will know it is not boring at all, rather its more fun and satisfying.

4. Go on a date

People think date is only for younger generation, or only during the courtship period. But that’s not true. We have been married for 15 years now, and we have never stopped going on a date. Planned dates as well as surprise and impromptu dates.

The fire and spark need to be alive, and both of you need to contribute in doing so.

We have even sneak out of our home together, telling family that we are going to work and spent entire day roaming on Delhi streets, enjoying to our hearts content just the two of us.

We steal get out sit at a coffee house, if we have time crunch, we stop at a tea stall on the road. Sit have tea and talk and come back home. We even catch up each other informed in our work place and grab a tea together. Its fun. Keeping excitement alive is very important in a relationship.

As we grow mature in a relationship, we start taking many things for granted. And the first in the list is our spouse. We stop appreciating, acknowledging and showing the love we used to during courtship period. Going out on a date, is a small pause in the busy schedule and monotonous life.

5. Binge watching

OTT platform is offering a bouquet of entertainment. They have explored and presented movies, drama, series in all possible genre. Most of these series, aren’t kids friendly. May it be Paatal Lok, hostages, Mirzapur to name a few. With the violence, cuss words as well as prevalence of substance abuse shown. Neither you can watch it with kids nor you want to watch it with them.

kids free activities

So, choose one weekend of the month, where you have planned activities for kids. You can either engage them with activity classes or grand parents. If one sibling is elder and can manage gadgets then once in a month even, they can make a list of movies they want to watch or play for a few hours.

Make a good sitting arrangement. Pop some corn if you like. Make a good ambience, a cosy one. And sit together with no one to disturb for a few hours. You can and must take out few hours in a month for just two of you right.

All these activities aren’t possible for everyone but I am sure at least one is. Trying something is better that not doing anything. You might not be able to do everything in the same month, but even one activity per month will do good. Every living being needs to be cared and nurtured and this relationship is called life- partners. So do not ignore it. We keep doing more than necessary for kids every day, we deserve a break too.

And if can’t do any of these, ever then at least sit and talk for a few minutes. Talk do not complain or crib, talk about good memories, about blessings in your life. Positive affirmations can do wonders.

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This Post Has 47 Comments

  1. Afreen Ansari

    These activities especially gardening seems quite interesting. Love all the 5 activities

  2. Mayura Amarkant

    Fantastic article! Parents also need to have fun! When my husband and I planned some activities without the kids, we felt guilty for a while. Later we realised that these special moments gave us energy to run our lives in a better manner.

  3. Jyoti Jha

    Go on a date was quite new and unique. Loved it. Some important ways of not only spending time but also developing strong bonds with children, very eloquently put.

  4. Sayali

    Nice idea. Cooking should be interesting

  5. Rashi Roy

    Those are some great points and am sure it would help families in spending quality time together. Glad you wrote on this topic.

  6. Some interesting suggestions. Dating at the age of 60 [my present age] sounds most interesting to me 🙂 But covid is a deterrence.

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      Catching up a unplanned coffee in balcony or terrace without anyone else will also do 🙂

  7. Harjeet Kaur

    My thoughts exactly Ujjwal. Parents should have couple time. As you said moms sleeping with the kids and kids sleeping in the parent’s bed even when they are ten years old!!.A couple needs to bond over all the activities u have rightfully pointed put. Obsessed moms these days neglect their partners and then will complain that he doesn’t care.

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      Glad to get this feedback from you 🙂

  8. Gurjeet Chhabra

    i LOVE YOUR POST BUT I CAN BRING ALIVE OLD DAYS. LOVE TO DATE MY HUBBY BUT SIMPLY NOT POSSIBLE AND BLINGE WATCH BECAME DIFFICULT WITH MY KID.

  9. Gunjan Upadhyay

    Those are some wonderful tips, my son is lil young but we still try to find some us times, especially on weekends and late binge watching in our fav

  10. Ninu Nair

    I do not enjoy gardening so I lag behind on that front…but I guess I should include that into my list of activities! An awesome list there!

    1. Alpana

      Thoughtful and quite doable list. You are right, with parenting, we tend to forget that we also need some “us time” and small changes can kelp the spark alive.

  11. Pooja Priyamvada

    Being a single parent have had no childfree time really last 12 years it always keeps weighing in you, but good suggestions for couples

    1. Anahita Irani

      Such a fun post. Indeed I enjoy cooking and gardening with kids. So much fun a d creativity.

  12. Kiranmayi G

    Such an informative article, especially needed now that kids need engagement during this lockdown.

  13. PraGun

    Nice activities for couples to indulge in. Those looking for quality time sure can have some great bonding over with these activities.

    1. Ruchi Nasa

      Self time without kids and spouse and couple time without kids both are important for the mental health of woman. What you choose depends on what you love to do. Agree with Ujjwala’s suggestions of the activities she has listed

  14. Roma

    I found your suggestions very relatable buddy

    1. Jhilmil Bhansali

      I believe that having quality “We” time for couples is equally important as having ME time for self.

  15. Swiddle D'Cunha

    Nice post.We keep our kids with grandparents and head out quite often.It really helps to get the much needed me time.

  16. Sivaranjini. A

    It is true, it is natural people don’t get time. But the things that give some personal time is very vital.

    1. Yogita Joshi

      Wow love the post, we enjoy cooking and gardening as a family, its fun.. These days we do binge watch cartoon movies. Missing going out on date these days

  17. Madhu

    Great tips. Parents often feel guilty about taking a break from their kids. But it is very much required.

  18. Deepa Gandhi

    You shared some fun activities for couples to do without kids. We do binge-watching and cooking but will try others.

  19. Manisha Garg

    Yes as a couple we do try and indulge in these activities like binge-watching and cooking.

  20. Charu

    Parents surely need some activities without kids for their own bonding and also sanity.

  21. Mandavi Jaiswal

    Going on a date sounds real fun, I am actually looking forward to it now

    1. Upasna

      Ahhh! How I wish my hubby enjoys gardening with me. But yes lovely ideas.

  22. Lancelot Quadras

    I liked the concept of explaining kids-free activities. The last one is something they would love the most without the tantrums of a child.

  23. Felicia Nazareth

    Wonderful tips for parents. These days, Binge-watching is a favorite to many.

  24. Dipika Singh

    I absolutely agree, we too enjoy all these activities together. Wonderful tips to keep kids engaged and also happy with such activities.

  25. Surbhi Prapanna

    loved the post Ujjwal and indeed parents also need their “We time”. I like all the ideas, specially the binge watching and cooking sounds so doable. these small things great joy, happiness and freshness in our relationship.

  26. Ruchi Verma

    Important to have some activities to have real good time with your partner without kids, normally love to do cooking together

  27. Swati Mathur

    I am feeling really good as we both indulge in all the activities mentioned by you. couples having Me time is really important as it makes their relationship really strong.

  28. Varsh

    I love the idea of cooking and working out together. Intimate time is anything done together without the distraction of kids around, I feel.

  29. Cindy Dsilva

    I think we only cook together at times because I suck at it mostly and I hate cooking. We tried binge watching but either he falls asleep or Im not interested in that show. Lol! Going on a date was on until the Pandemic hit.

  30. Preeti Chauhan

    Bonding with each other over activities like gardening and cooking or even a movie date at home , sounds like so much fun and so doable too .

  31. Snigdha

    Very nice ideas for parents to spend quality time during lockdown. In my case we don’t get time at all . The whole time goes managing both the kids .

  32. Pragnya Mishra

    Spending quality time with a partner and talking something other than kids is much important. Cooking works well for us. Husbandman chops and I take over the stove or vice versa. Cook a meal as well as talk. Real talk. Loved the article.

  33. Ishieta

    lovely ideas! when my neices come over, i used to take them out to the park with the dogs to play.but currently, we stay indoors. i am going to try gardening with them next time they come over – great way to keep them happy and entertained 🙂

  34. These are some great ideas to build the bond. Few activities I can even start after reading your post, work out is what can be fun and challenging too.

  35. Roma

    These activities make sense dear but have become increasingly difficult in these times . Thanks for the reminder though.

  36. Neha Sharma

    I agree with you, once the kid enters the scene, a couple starts losing interest in doing couple things mainly because they don’t know how to find time for themselves. These are some brilliant activities couples can enjoy together and revamp their relationship.

  37. Judy Morris

    Great list Ujjwal well as of now we are stealing the moments while at work.. nah naah not office work.. when he does the dishes and I cook… ha ha ha…

  38. Vaishali

    I have been making sure that H spends time cooking. He has started to lay the table. He has also been helping in gardening. But that’s me and my son. As for the couple goals unlocked during the lockdown, we are sharing each other’s mind space and utilizing this time to understand each other’s professional abilities, more like bonding over coaching each other.

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