Kids’ free activities, however impudent it might sound to you but believe me that is very much required for a couple to have a healthy life together. Once we are parents, priorities change. And it must change. But once we become parents, we must not forget that we are life partner of one person too. A person who we share our dreams as well. Unless you both are connected at psychological, spiritual and physical levels, the dream sharing takes a back seat. Then you are not life partners rather just roommates. Who share a room, expenses and chores.
This happens more in women; motherhood takes away the real woman in them. Don’t take me wrong but on many Facebook moms’ groups I have read discussions where ladies proudly say that they sleep with kids only and they didn’t get physically close to husband in the last 2-3 years. There can be reasons, some genuine reasons but then all actions have repercussions too. There must be a balance in life in everything you do. You be a mother but never forget you are a wife too. That’s why here I am suggesting some kids’ free activities, for just two of you.
With modern-age relationships one more problem is every one is busy in their own world. May be both partners are working or not, but no one is free. So here are few activities come chores, where you can spend quality time as well as finish your work.
5 Kids free activities, just for parents
We have heard it since ages that ‘the way to a man’s heart goes through his stomach’, but let me tell you that a way to a woman’s heart goes through a day free from kitchen. If dear husbands, you can not manage the entire day, at least manage one meal. Together. See I am not asking husbands to cook alone. I understand in this age too we still have men who can hardly make tea by them selves or may be Maggi. Even if you have a cook, there must be something that you guys can cook together. May be breakfast, evening snacks or anything light. The agenda isn’t to prepare a full course meal, but to create something together.
Plan ahead, to avoid chaos, mood swings and stuffs that hamper the agenda. Decide the dish, check availability of ingredients. Cooking is stress buster, plus you guys can gossip, chat and do lot of sweet nothings. More than ingredients two things are important. Please take a note, keep your mobile phones away except for checking recipe that is in making and lot of love. The dish will automatically come out superb.
2. Working out
The silver lining of the dark cloud called Covid19 is that we have got a lot of time together. How much of it is quality time, is up to us. We are having a real twisty journey with lots of ups and downs.
Working out together, can be as simple as walking, jogging, yoga or even gym workout. At home or outside, as per once comfort level. I am telling you with my personal experience that being your spouses gym buddy is amazing. We have one-hour workout session, either in morning or evening as per the work schedule. It is a mix of HIIT, weight training and stretches. But the way we support each other in heavy weight squats and motivate when really really tired, gives me a reason to look forward to do the routine every day.
Working out together, is an amazing among the other kids’ free activities. It’s like ‘aam ke aam guthliyon ke daam’. Weight loss as well as some quality time.
Garden doesn’t mean a big place; it can be a few vase or pots in your balcony or lobby. I am not much into flower gardening; I prefer herbs and vegetables where as my husband loves flower gardening. On this anniversary I gifted him a gardening tool kit. He loved it more than I expected and uses it almost every weekend. I have also started helping him out. We get new plants, pots and spend sometime nurturing them as well as our relationship. The joy of creating together is amazing. Plus, it’s a stress buster too.
Once you start doing it together, you will know it is not boring at all, rather its more fun and satisfying.
4. Go on a date
People think date is only for younger generation, or only during the courtship period. But that’s not true. We have been married for 15 years now, and we have never stopped going on a date. Planned dates as well as surprise and impromptu dates.
The fire and spark need to be alive, and both of you need to contribute in doing so.
We have even sneak out of our home together, telling family that we are going to work and spent entire day roaming on Delhi streets, enjoying to our hearts content just the two of us.
We steal get out sit at a coffee house, if we have time crunch, we stop at a tea stall on the road. Sit have tea and talk and come back home. We even catch up each other informed in our work place and grab a tea together. Its fun. Keeping excitement alive is very important in a relationship.
As we grow mature in a relationship, we start taking many things for granted. And the first in the list is our spouse. We stop appreciating, acknowledging and showing the love we used to during courtship period. Going out on a date, is a small pause in the busy schedule and monotonous life.
5. Binge watching
OTT platform is offering a bouquet of entertainment. They have explored and presented movies, drama, series in all possible genre. Most of these series, aren’t kids friendly. May it be Paatal Lok, hostages, Mirzapur to name a few. With the violence, cuss words as well as prevalence of substance abuse shown. Neither you can watch it with kids nor you want to watch it with them.
So, choose one weekend of the month, where you have planned activities for kids. You can either engage them with activity classes or grand parents. If one sibling is elder and can manage gadgets then once in a month even, they can make a list of movies they want to watch or play for a few hours.
Make a good sitting arrangement. Pop some corn if you like. Make a good ambience, a cosy one. And sit together with no one to disturb for a few hours. You can and must take out few hours in a month for just two of you right.
All these activities aren’t possible for everyone but I am sure at least one is. Trying something is better that not doing anything. You might not be able to do everything in the same month, but even one activity per month will do good. Every living being needs to be cared and nurtured and this relationship is called life- partners. So do not ignore it. We keep doing more than necessary for kids every day, we deserve a break too.
And if can’t do any of these, ever then at least sit and talk for a few minutes. Talk do not complain or crib, talk about good memories, about blessings in your life. Positive affirmations can do wonders.
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