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It’s not a job that gets a lot of Compliments

The best part about being on a sabbatical apart from off course slowing down from the routine of rushing in the morning to spending more time with kids, cooking more of what they love to eat rather than whats quick and available, going on impromptu dates with husband and lazying around in the house in quite afternoons when everyone is going about with their own routine is spending more time all by yourself, and someone like me who has always loved to watch movies and sometimes learn about life thru it its a best opportunity. With a hi speed wi-fi and the provider throwing lot of subscription for various digital platforms for free…“khush rehne ke liye aur kya chahiye gaalib”.

So, while browsing and watching over various web series on these internet platforms, I landed on a web series called “young Sheldon“. I immediately connected with their happiness, sorrows, problems achievements, chaos. It’s a family drama of three kids one being super intelligent that’s Sheldon living with their parents in Texas and have their maternal grandmother named Connie, who is loved as well as hated by everyone depending on the scenarios and situations presented, just like it happens in our normal lives across the street. There are many aspects that I like about how every bodies relationship with other person evolves, but my favorite conversations are that of Connie and her daughter Mary, who is the mom in the show. One particular dialog that Connie says to Mary You are doing a fantastic job as a mother, it’s not a job that gets a lot of compliments.
How many times have you doubted yourself as a mother, if you are doing right, if you are doing enough. Just like Mary we all live for the betterment of our kids, most of the times go be young our various capacities to see that one smile on our kids face. Every child is different just the same way every mum is different, there is no way we can compare one to another and if we do that being too harsh on ourselves. Every mother has a unique way of bringing up their kids some are strict some are more lenient. Some can make best of the craft projects some can make only as much is necessary. Some let kids have screen time, mobiles where as some gift more and more books to their kids but believe me every time a mom takes a decision or does something for the kids, no matter if anyone else understands it or not but from her shoes it is always right. Don’t look for approvals you are the mum you have that instinct for your child no one else has it. Even kids fail to compliment mothers for their contribution in the upbringing, they take mum’s for granted and the same kids don’t fail to appreciate their fathers for what they are today, but they shouldn’t be a deterrent for you. As it’s a joy to be a mother, and with it comes sacrifice. Do things for your kids that you genuinely want to do not because of any pressures from anyone. This is surely not a job that gives you many compliments, but it surely gives much satisfaction and contentment to the soul.
Happy Motherhood!!

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  1. Anshu Bhojnagarwala

    Such a beautiful post, Ujjwal! You are right, mothers must be the most unpraised lot. They are so used to go on their daily chores without being appreciated that they even forget to appreciate their own contribution, which is massive. I believe whether anyone appreciates or not, a mother should appreciate herself, the world revolves because of her – the kitchen runs and the household runs smoothly because of her.

    1. My Words My Wisdom

      Yes we must appreciate ourselves and remember not to criticise other mums.Glad you took out time to read.

  2. Richelle

    Thanks for writing this awesome article. I’m a long time reader but I’ve never been compelled to leave a comment.
    I subscribed to your blog and shared this on my Twitter.
    Thanks again for a great article!

  3. Cindy Dsilva

    I love being a mother but doing the housework is something that pisses me off. I have had help husband and father in law during this lockdown so I have remained sane.

  4. Surbhi Prapanna

    yes I agree that there should be no comparison and judging..each mother has a right to raise her kids as per her parenting style…headline of your post was so touching and yes, motherhood is a job that does not get paid nor get too many compliments..but it is a feeling that is really special and most beautiful in the world.

  5. Mayuri Nidigallu

    Being a Mom is like being Salt. No one realizes your worth, till you are missing. Every Mom has her own way of bringing up their child and running the house and no one should have a view on that.

    1. Charu

      That’s rightly said. Motherhood is no less than a full time job. The only reward in it is appreciation. I feel super motivated when someone appreciates my efforts as a mom. It’s not about seeking validation, but just about feeling motivated.

  6. Richa Sharma

    Wonderful article dear. We are also normal human beings. Stop judging and comparing us. I strongly believe that every kid is different just the same way every mum is different, there is no way we can compare one to another.

  7. Rajshree S

    This is such a beautiful post. I completely agree! motherhood is a job that doesn’t get many compliments and I think it’s about time we change that just to show how much the other person is being appreciated.

  8. Varsh

    We do the worst service to ourselves as mothers by seeking approval from others. Our life, our kids, our struggles and our rules! I feel for Mary, such a tough job to raise a know-it-all son but she’s good!

  9. Pragnya Mishra

    Motherhood is a thankless job. Most of us grow up conditioned to take mothers for granted while praising every other member of family and friends.

    I loved reading this article.

  10. Neha Sharma

    I completely agree with your thoughts, Ujjwal, loved reading your views on motherhood. It’s a job that doesn’t get many compliments, how true is that but sometimes we all crave for appreciation. But yes with motherhood comes a lot of sacrifices & the only thing that keeps us going is that smile on our kid’s face.

  11. Zahra

    Motherhood is a life with a combination of love and strength. I love to live it all. We are actually dual in it as we live with ourselves as well as live through our children as well.

  12. Dr Bushra

    Mother’s are always judge for their child doing. And like you said we try to do things out of pressure from others. That’s not right. This responsibility doesn’t bring praise all the time. But it should not effect our decision.

  13. Anita

    What a lovely post.Motherhood is a blessing and you are so right that it rarely comes with a blueprint or complements.We adore Little Sheldon

  14. Kavita Singh

    I couldn’t agree more, this job gives much satisfaction and contentment to the soul. We, as mothers are always judged for our choices, I think, with time I have gradually learned to shake off these judgemental remarks.

  15. Judy Morris

    Oh so you are one of the few people I know who loved young Sheldon… Jokes apart yes we mothers seek approvals I too was doing the same but of lately I have shifted the gear and now I don’t. We need to understand our happiness and our idea of contentment.

  16. Surbhi

    I absolutely agree with you that every mother has a unique way of bringing up their kids. Parenthood is subjective. But yeah it’s crazy that motherhood is taken for granted and fatherhood is applauded

  17. Debidutta Mohanty

    I agree completely with you Ujjwal. We all are unique in our own way. No mother or no child is same. Every mom is right for her own child she knows what’s best for her kid. Thanks for this lovely article.

  18. MeenalSonal Mathur

    Rightly said Ujjwal, the amount of energy we put in our relations is always higher than any other tasks, yet we all fail to recognise the effort. Appreciation I feel should be norm in families too which will surely give more positive vibes.


    totally agree with you on this, motherhood surely doesn’t pay anything but gives much contentment and satisfaction. This was a good read dear!!

  20. Tina Basu

    This is such a heartfelt post. Motherhood is like the most important job in the life and one that you can’t fail at. Yet moms are not given as much appreciation for doing their job!

  21. Amrit Kaur

    Being a mother is best phase of life but yes it doesn’t get too many compliments except for mother’s day when compliments and messages are flooded. I praise my mom every day as she raised her kids alone really well.

  22. Roma

    I have been nodding throughout Ujjwal and yes can I agree more. Motherhood is beautiful for everyone enjoy your journey

  23. Snigdha

    Mother’s are always judge for their child in any way . And sometimes we try to do things out of pressure from others which is not right.

  24. Ruchi Verma

    I feel motherhood is a grand journey, agree that we don’t get compliments but I really enjoy every bit but judging moms is a sad thing which usually happens a lot!!

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