Judged #TheWomanThatIAm

Judged #TheWomanThatIAm

In this blog hop I read so many poems that I could not hold myself from attempting to write my thoes in poetry rather than prose.

This is my first attempt at poetry, hope I don’t make a blunder.

Judged…. for things I Do and Don’t

I work as a daycare maid, Meagerly I get paid

Leave my kids at home and take care of theirs as my own

But whenever anything goes wrong, I am the one to be frowned upon

May be its my work or The woman that I am,

I am always judged

I am a house help, Doing all chore till the day ends

They still keep my plates distinct; they eat what I cook

But can’t give me an empathetic look

When things go missing, I am spontaneously considered the thief

which then ends up filling me with grief

May be its my work or The woman that I am,

I am always judged

I am a highly educated housewife,

I have wasted my parent’s money in a brink,

sit at home all day and do nothing is what they think

Look at the women who work they say,

they have a problem that I want to live my way

May be its my life or The woman that I am,

I am always judged

I am women who go to office for work

Just to be named as a bad mother as a perk

They say my dreams are bad for my kids future

They say my house is not in order as I do not nurture

I struggle and fight with my own guilt

And over and above the pressure they built

May be its my work or The woman that I am,

I am always judged

Then I think who are these ‘They’

Why do they want to play?

Just to come face to face with the reality

They are people from same species

I fail to understand why they judge

Because for the woman that I am, I am not here to nudge

I don’t care what they think, As I am here to fight and not Sink

And believe me As I say, we all are the same in the Rink

“This post is a part of ‘The Woman That I Am’ Blog Hop #TheWomanThatIAm organized by Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul #RRxMM. The Event is sponsored by Kraffitti.”

This Post Has 65 Comments

  1. Arushi Seth

    If that was a first attempt to write poetry, you have done an outstanding job. The poem is so so honest and real and talks the trials a woman faces because she is judged at all times irrespective of what she does. I love the lines, I don’t care what they think, As I am here to fight and not Sink And believe me As I say, we all are the same in the Rink. Beautiful.

    1. ujjwalmishra83@gmail.com

      Thanks 🙂

      1. An amazing first attempt at poetry, Ujjwal. And you brought out the truth behind all women’s lives in a few lines….that’s commendable. Write more poetries.
        Janaki@beyondthefamiliar

      2. Wow! This is what I would have want to have written. The words spoke to me as I seems to be always fighting the same old battle we all seem to be fighting everyday. We are judged and we are women.

  2. Zenobia Merchant

    Is it really your first poem? You have a done a great job. The absolute contradiction in what a woman does and what she is made to feel. The age old conflict still reigns.

  3. PraGun

    You have projected our little helper’s life very nicely in this poem.
    I am proud of there existence in our lives as they are true helpers without whom we won’t be able to work along. I really appreciate there work and happy to read your tribute for them be it daycare maid or our house helper or even the vegetable seller.
    Well said about woman be it a homemaker or even working she is always judged whatever she does is always a topic to dicuss. Seriously we failed to understand who are ‘they’. Nice post.

  4. Swarnali Nath

    Loved the theme. Women are being judged for whatever they do, right or wrong, for everything. Do job or stay at home, do shopping or save money, whatever. Loved your poetry, it was great!

  5. Jyoti Jha

    No matter what role and which phase of life, a woman is constantly judged and unfortunately most of the times by her very own kind. It is about time we start understanding each other rather than judging others.
    Very well portrayed the concern poetically. More power to the fight!

  6. Sivaranjini

    If judging others is what we want to live as human what if God was to judge us. Great post to eradicate this deep-rooted disease of judging each other 😊🤗

  7. Ruchi Nasa

    Judgement is a human trait, and even males do get judged. If a male sits at home , and cares for kids ..he is judged for living off his wife. Being non judgmental and minding ones own business would be a perfect society. You have nicely put the prejudices different women face be it anyone.

  8. Shail Thosani

    A woman if sitting at home is judged and if working is also judged. If she is a working from home still she is judged. We are always judged but who cares as said by you who are this They? And do these they matter. Loved your protrayal of our house help.

  9. I agree with you when you say that women will be judged if they do or do not do something, but gradually this is changing Ujjwal and if this is your first attempt at poetry, you have done an excellent job. Your post was as raw as possible and as simple as it could get. I really loved your post 🙂
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  10. Deepika Sharma

    What a lovely poem. You’ve depicted truly that whatever a woman does she’s always judged so we should just move on our way. Loved reading it.
    Deepika Sharma

  11. Deepika

    I love poetries because we can express a lot in fewer words that exactly the same you did. This is your first poetry! I am amazed. You did a great job and portray the emotions of house help, educated homemaker, office going women and each and every woman who ever judged. Kudos!

    Deepika Mishra

  12. Surbhi Rastogi

    That is such a powerful poem! How true it is that we are judged in every role which we play – homemaker or career woman, married or unmarried, mother or not one. You have brought out the conundrum excellently!

  13. Sonia Madaan

    Wonderful poem, well expressed!
    Whatever role a woman plays, she has to go through struggles, guilts, judgements and what not. Still, she fights back, stands firm and inspires others to do so. Thats a ‘Woman’.

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      indeed, we women need to stop judging ourselves too and live life less stressed

  14. Beautifully expressed through rhyming verses. I liked the pattern of the poem…how you have chosen each paragraph to represent a category of women. Great job!

  15. I cant believe this is your first attempt at poetry.
    Just awesome and I am amazed by the kind of words you’ve used.
    I am a poetess and I loved every word penned by you.

  16. Ritu

    A fabulous first attempt, Ujjwal. Very well penned. Hope to read more such creations from you.

    Women are always judged, irrespective of their class or social standing. She can never do anything right. “They still keep my plates distinct; they eat what I cook”. I can never wrap my head around this hypocrisy.

  17. Srivalli

    For a first-time poet, this sure is beautiful and meaningful. Well written. 🙂

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      Thanks for encouraging words

  18. Ninu Nair

    This was so beautiful. I loved the way you incorporated women from such varied segments into one emotional flow. I am always in awe of people who can write poetry and you are truly blessed with this skill. An amazing, heartfelt post!

  19. Mahesh Sowani

    We all are judged by others and sometimes the judgment is mixed with prejudices. What can we do? No matter how much we decide not to be affected by it, it spoils the mood on some days.

  20. “I am always judged.”
    So true..
    You have kind of tugged at my heartstrings because this sentence took me down memory lane..So many events came to my mind…The poem was also very beautifully written.. Best wishes for your future posts..

  21. Archana

    Very well said, you conveyed very strong message through your poetry Ujjwal, “I don’t care what they think, I am here to fight not sink”, absolutely correct! I can’t believe this is your first attempt on poetry, well attempted!!! You must go for more poetries, I too love poems rather than prose, writing Poem in english is one of take from my wishlist!

  22. Brinda

    As a woman, whichever field we are in, no one is fully happy with us are they? That is the cross we have to bear! Lovely the way you have brought it all together in a poem! A toast to womanhood!

  23. Poorvi Khare

    Wow….what a beautiful and hard hitting poem. This is your first attempt? It’s amazing. Keep writing such poems😊

  24. Jyoti Arora

    Heartfelt poetry!! I am here to fight and not to sink a true inspiration to a women !! We should do what we want not to be judged by others. Truly said !! Beautifully penned Dear , you must go for more of poetry 🙂👍

  25. Urvashi

    So true. On a lighter note. Made me laugh how the world judges us women at every step and phase while we slog ourselves out. Only one message to add judge me as much as you want I don’t give a damn. #damurureads Urvashi

  26. Sundeep

    I think people are being judged on constant basis irrespective of their gender. The key is to keep doing what you are doing as far as people judgment is not coming in your way. Peace.

  27. Meena Chatty

    This is your first attempt at poetry? You must be kidding! It is very aesthetically written Ujjwal. The sentiments echoed ring true at every level. Kudos!

    Meena from balconysunrise.wordpress.com

  28. Yatindra Tawde

    A nice tribute to those who help us run the house smoothly. Many times ignored but here you have acknowledged them deservingly. – Yatindra Tawde

  29. Abha Singh

    Very nicely written. If this is your first attempt of poem then you really deserve applaud.

  30. Ruchi Nasa

    It’s true, women will be always judged. But on second thoughts being judgmental is human nature. Men too are judged. If a husband willingly works from home to let her wife soar high, he is also judged. Isn’t it ?

  31. Deepika

    Hi I had commented yesterday too but my comment is not showing
    I loved your post. Women are always judged whatever we may do. You’ve put it so beautifully that too poetically. We need to ignore them and move on as you rightly said. Wonderfully expressed
    Deepika Sharma

  32. Manisha Garg

    Being judgemental is the biggest disease we women suffer from. Say it irony many a time we are judged by other women only along with men. I really wish that to begin with, we women support each other at all levels.

  33. Surabhi B.das

    Wow, it was so beautiful post, especially your poetry section. best wishes to your future writing.

  34. Tina Basu

    Women are being judged day in and day out for whatever they do. This is so wrong. Very well written post

  35. Shipra Trivedi

    This is the irony of life. A house-help leaves her own house and kids for taking care of other’s house. She has a schedule to follow and even does extra work without any over time. Still she is never considered as working woman who is backbone of the family!!

  36. Varsh

    People who judge us are far from perfect themselves. I feel sorry for them since most of the time they try to cover us their own misgivings by being mean. I believe in doing what I want to. Good or bad, my life and my family is my concern. Not theirs.

  37. Deepti Sharma

    Little empathy goes a long way… well penned

  38. Monika

    Seriously women is judged in all the roles . I don’t know why this society doesn’t let her just be herself . But yes ! We will not sink ! A wonderful post .

  39. Congratulations on your new website and on your first attempt at poetry Ujjwal. Wish you much success in the future.
    I appreciate you showing that no matter the role a woman plays in life, she is always judged. I am also glad that by speaking out against these commonplace judgements, we can make a universal change.

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      Thanks, glad you could relate to my poem

  40. Seems like the society looks at us women through the lens of prejudice. They have kind of fixed certain mindset with respect to our choices.

  41. Disha

    Women have always be judged by the society. But, it’s now the time we stand up for ourself. Heartfelt post!

  42. Sonam Chamaria

    You have very aptly portrayed society’s perception of house-helps in the form of poetry! Love it!

  43. Mayuri Nidigallu

    So glad you wrote this. It is always fellow women who judge us the most and in the harshest possible way. Loved it!

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      yes, glad you liked it 🙂

  44. Supriti Garg

    u nailed it. A maiden attempt at poetry and such powerful words u use. U are right that a woman is always judged, for whatever she does.. lets stop that judgement because she is here to fight and not sink. Loved every bit of your poem.

  45. Gurjeet Chhabra

    Beautiful poem,true woman always being judge ,whatever your status is ,your work place is but we are not for judging our efforts.

  46. Meera

    And this cannot be the first time you are writing poetry
    Looks like you have eaten up a poetry book years back and now you are colouring the walls.

    And the thoughts ate real and we women can definitely relate to …ecah ans every words you spilled here..

    Keep spilling poetry

  47. Supriti Garg

    Oh the harsh reality. Even the educated elite class judge everyone.. especially the underprivileged ones and they feel that they are entitled to it. But it’s a big NO… Very short and crisp poem…

  48. Sangya Nagpal

    I can so resonate your poem.
    I m a day care maid….
    I am highly educated housewife…
    So beautifully penned the pain of many.

    Sangya Nagpal

  49. Priyanka Nair

    Whether a home maker or a working women, we are judged for everything we do or choose not to do..your thoughts echoes with us here and you should write poetries often. You did a great job!

  50. This word judge is commonly used nowadays. And I think the women nowadays don’t care about being judged as much as earlier. Listening to your poem, I hope the ones who cared will stop doing so. Anything you do is going to be criticized. As long as there are listeners, one can give judgement. I urge all women to stop anyone from judging one another, if you can’t, leave the place so that no judging happens. Well-written peom. It set me thinking of all the women who actually take other’s opinions and ruin not only their lives but also their loved ones.

  51. Rashi Roy

    Wonderful! If this is your first attempt with poetry then I must sincerely appreciate. Very well written and depicting the reality. You should try writing more poetries now. Glad that you are a part of this blog hop and you shared this beautiful piece with us 🙂

  52. Manas Mukul

    Intriguing and thought provoking. I am impressed if this is what you call your first attempt. Congratulations you have just explored a new line of creative expression. Keep flying. Keep the amazing work going. You have a feel of it. Dont let it die. Looking forward for more. Really happy you joined us for this one and supported us.

    #RRxMM #TheWomanThatIAm

  53. Women and judgement has been inseparable for years, though things are changing and even women these days don’t give a damn. Wonderful post Ujjwal !

  54. Satya

    It’s a beautiful n honest poem dear Ujjwal. I think you can confidently jump to poetry writing 👍👍

    1. Ujjwal Mishra

      Thanks didi 🙂

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