Lockdown has shown us many unprecedented days. We don’t see people making groups and gossiping. Kids are not playing gully cricket and even your favourite daily soaps are not there on the television. Life has been completely different in these last 4 months.
One such big change or you can call it Leap of faith, I have taken.
We have become a joint family from a nuclear family. Yup!!! You heard me right. Ever since marriage or even my mom always had a nuclear setup. In-laws coming to stay with us, or I stayed with them when my first born was an infant for a month, was I guess the longest continues time we had spent together.
Lockdown, which came with work from home and online schooling made location an absolutely negligible entity. Most of my husband’s friends married as well as unmarried moved back to their parent’s place. This is the longest vacation, in terms of office travel any one can get. Is the logic.
We were so bored sitting in our flat in a high rise, the human interaction we were left with was only with the vegetable vendor whom we were visiting in a fortnight. Sometimes even that was missing, Thanks to the smooth supplies of essentials by online orders. So, the idea of driving all the way 500 kms, feeling the air in my hair was the most tempting thing I could materialize in last many months. Even kids were excited.
So, we travelled from there to here. It’s been only 7 days. There are few good and few adjustments happening from everyone.
What has changed
The top most reason for my happiness is, I can get some time for myself. And we (read me and my husband) can sit and enjoy evening and morning tea together. Without kids hovering our head. I am sure mothers can relate to my feelings. This is like “baadal pein paaon hai”.
I do not have to run behind them for making them eat, putting them to sleep or even to keep them away from screen. All that has been taken care by grandparents.
That’s why we love our grandparents right. No rules, only pampering.
This is a win-win for me.
The rest of the chores of cleaning, utensils, cooking remains the same. As I was doing it there as well, so it hardly matters. But now I can help my aging MIL, and reduce her burden gives me a sense of satisfaction. She can spend some time in meditation and gardening, two of her most favourite things.
The weather here is good right now. Sitting on the couch, sipping tea, and watching rain is like a dream, which had finally come true.
Some Hicups are must
There are challenges, and we are trying to Overcome them too.
Here, not many online apps are providing premium services for essentials. Like we highly depended on bbdaily and amazon now for our supplies, sadly both are not providing services here.
People are less serious about the pandemic. You can spot many people without a mask. Yesterday India has its highest number of positive cases which is close to 50 thousand. Still people are taking it lightly. Not just that, we even spotted people enjoying chaat and golgappe when we entered the city. That was a shock for us. We were into a highly quarantined environment, by choice. Seeing these people, my younger one asked me,” Mom, has Covid19 being wiped out? Can we go and play now?”. To which I had to give a long explanation.
Staying together, under one roof has reduced out anxiety. We are going to bed early, sleeping well and getting up early. The bouts of sadness, crying or unprovoked agitation has not been there. We are spending morning time doing exercise, meditation. And sitting in garden with mummy papa and enjoying the special kadha made by papa, all this before waking up the kids for virtual school. Hope it stays like this.
Not just elders but even kids are acknowledging the difference. My elder ones only upsetting moment is when all the elders start asking him to study, till then all is more than well.
Glad we took this decision. As of now the thought is to be here, till the time schools and offices do not start functioning as they were in pre-covid.
What is the biggest change happened in your life, during this stay at home time?